The 4-1-1 on Reinventing You
Essential Tips for Knowing What You Want – And Getting It!
Michele Sfakianos, RN, BSN
There is a lot of chatter today about reinventing yourself, especially after 50. There’s no “magical” age when you find yourself in a difficult situation, whether it be a divorce, death of a loved one, or a job loss, and have to make some tough decisions. It is these times that you need to re-evaluate your life and determine the best path for you. You can’t listen to others advice on what you “should” do with your life. It’s your life, do with it what you want. When it is all said and done, what do you want to be said at your funeral? Do you want people to talk about your life contributions or the fact that you listened to everyone else and did things that you didn’t even enjoy? Do you want them to talk about how happy you lived, or how sad you always seemed to be?
Until you are confronted with taking care of yourself and a home, many people do not realize what is involved. It can be overwhelming to some and totally frustrating to others. Life is meant to be enjoyed. If you equip yourself with the knowledge to take care of the everyday tasks, you will then be able to enjoy other activities. Whether you are moving out for the first time; or going it alone due to divorce or death of a loved one; or starting a family of your own, this information is for you. The material inside will provide a new dimension of potential for you and your family. I’ve put all the cards on the table for you. Ace Your Life, is the “Ace in the hole” that will provide the tools and knowledge, to gain that something, to put you and your family on the pathway of an informed and powerful life.
This is a book to help parents and teens to navigate the obstacles that teens face today. Teens are known to be irresponsible, messy, hormonal, and rude. It is time to change the way adults view teenagers. Teens today are faced with drugs, teen pregnancy, texting or sexting, alcohol, peer pressure, bullying, and other dangers. Why do our teens use drugs and alcohol, gamble, or fall prey to other destructive behaviors such as eating disorders or cutting? We will walk through these and other scenarios, and I will offer guidance on how to get through it.
Man and woman relationships alone are difficult. When you add his kids, her kids, his ex, her ex and the in-laws, most people cannot handle the pressure. Step-families require more effort and understanding because of more people involved, and this often includes young ones who didn’t ask to be put into the situation to begin with.
The manner in which you approach the role of parent or step parent and the attitude you put forth will differ from those around you. You must pay particular attention to your actions so as to not alienate yourself from your partner or the children. Things to take into consideration when blending a family are: finances, living arrangements, holidays, grandparent responsibilities, and legal ramifications. These are just a sample of the items we will cover. Not everyone is willing to take on this responsibility, but you have made the decision to do so. I hope you will learn from the information contained herein to make the transition easy for everyone involved.
This is a book about the basic life skills that are not always taught in school or at home. Those basic life skill needed by adults of all ages for everyday living. Did you ever wonder when you were getting ready to leave home for the first time, if your parents had taught you everything you needed to know to survive on your own? Or, were you in a long term relationship and now find yourself single and don’t know where to start? Do you know how to do laundry; clean a home; balance a checkbook or cook a meal? Are you aware of the different types of deposits required to either rent or buy a home? If the answers were “yes” — good for the role models that you had! Thank them every chance you get! If the answers were “no” to most of these questions — don’t be discouraged — there is help on the way! It is my hope that this book will help those who need it and will be shared with others who can benefit from it. This is not a “be all, end all” book and it is not intended to replace knowledge received from professionals trained in certain areas. As a Registered Nurse, Life Skills Expert and a mother, I want to be able to help the adults of today and the next generation to come.
The primary goal of the teen years is to achieve independence. Other goals include: finding a way to fit in; thinking about a career choice; and for many just making it through high school. For the process of the primary goal to occur, teens will start pulling away from their parents. They will pull away from the parent they are closest to first. Although capable of making decisions, a number of teens are not ready for the adjustment. Maturity levels vary among teens. No matter what level you are in your maturity, the principles in this book will work for you.
A pocket guide for handy reference to motivate parents towards positive parenting.